How to Decide If a Contest Is the Right Fit for You
Here’s something we don’t say out loud enough in the pin-up world:
You don’t have to do every contest.
You don’t have to do this contest.
And choosing not to apply can be just as powerful as stepping on stage.
This blog isn’t here to talk you into anything. It’s here to help you make a decision that feels aligned, confident, and good in your body—not pressured, rushed, or resentful.
Start With the Season You’re In
Every pin-up has seasons. Some are bold and sparkly and ready to be seen everywhere. Others are quieter—focused on healing, rebuilding, learning, or just surviving real life.
Ask yourself:
Do I have the time and energy for a multi-day public event?
Am I excited by the commitment—or already exhausted thinking about it?
Does this feel like a stretch in a good way, or stress in a bad way?
There is no wrong season. Just honest ones.
Look at Alignment, Not FOMO
A contest being popular doesn’t mean it’s right for you.
Think about:
Does the vibe match my style and personality?
Do the values of this event feel aligned with mine?
Would I feel proud to be associated with this stage, win or lose?
If the answer is “ehhh maybe?”—listen to that.
Be Real About Budget & Logistics
Confidence grows when you’re not quietly panicking about money or time off.
Ask yourself:
Can I comfortably afford this without resentment?
Do I have the support I need (travel, childcare, rides, rest)?
Will I be able to show up present and grounded?
If the answer is no right now, that doesn’t mean never. It just means not yet.
Ask What You Want Out of the Experience
Not every contest serves the same purpose.
Are you looking for:
Stage experience?
Community connection?
A personal challenge?
Visibility or professional growth?
Just a damn good weekend in heels?
Knowing your “why” makes choosing your “where” much easier.
Remember: A Contest Is Not a Measure of Worth
You don’t become more valid by being selected.
You don’t become less valid by sitting one out.
You don’t owe anyone your participation.
Pin up is not a ladder—it’s a landscape. There are many paths, many stages, and many ways to belong.
The Bottom Line
The right contest should feel exciting, supportive, and aligned—not like something you have to survive.
If this one feels like a “yes,” amazing.
If it feels like a “not right now,” that’s wisdom—not weakness.
Choose the stages that honor who you are today.
Next up in the series:
What Happens After You’re Selected
(aka: onboarding, expectations, and what to expect once you get the “you’re in” email)
— Kiki Lou 💋
